A Journey of Resilience, Resourcefulness, and Radical Self-Love.
By Kake Lanae
There comes a time in every woman’s life when life asks her to rise, certainly not because she’s ready, but because her Spirit is. It’s in the quiet storms, the unexpected changes, the “I never saw that coming” moments, where resilience is born. Some nudges aren’t loud, they aren’t a dramatic performance, but as a whisper—a decision to keep going.
I’ve learned that being resilient isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about trusting yourself enough to keep asking the questions and to continue to go the distance. It’s about leaning alll the way into the pain, the silence, the empty spaces, and saying, “I may not know how yet, but I’ll figure it out .” That’s resourcefulness: the ability to make something out of nothing, to use what you have, even when what you have doesn’t seem like enough!
When life stripped me bare—I realized I had a choice. I could break, or I could rebuild. So I started small. I began paying attention to the things that made me smile. A song that activated something in me. The way that flowers feel like peace. The sun through the window at 8 a.m. when everything is still. These breadcrumbs led me back to myself and was the catalyst for expansion.
Self-discovery is not a destination—it’s a sacred unfolding. It’s being willing to ask, “What’s MY purpose? Who am I when no one is looking?” It’s unlearning what no longer serves you and making room for what absolutely does. That can sometimes look like learning new skills, or sitting in stillness, and other times it means completely changing your mind. That’s okay. Changing your mind is holy. It’s a sign of growth, not weakness. You are allowed to evolve.
Through it all, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is the power of discipline—not the rigid kind, but the kind that honors your future self. I’m learning that discipline is devotion. A gift I give to myself. It’s choosing long-term peace over short-term comfort. It’s waking up earlier than you want to so your spirit can breathe. It’s saying no to things that once defined you.
If you’re trying to build more discipline in your life, here are some gentle but powerful tips:
Start with one habit. Choose something small but beneficial—like drinking a glass of water before anything else each morning. Master that before adding more.
Pair it with love. Combine your habit to something you enjoy. If you hate working out, dance instead. If you hate budgeting, turn it into a vision board.
Forgive the slip-ups. Missing a day doesn’t mean you failed. It means you’re human. Start again with grace. Just keep going.
Create rituals, not routines. Routines feel robotic. Rituals art sacred. Light a candle, play soft music, and make even mundane tasks feel like an offering to yourself, because you are literally gifting yourself in that moment.
And then there’s the sacred art of saying NO. No is a full sentence. It’s also a prayer, a boundary, a form of self-preservation. Saying no doesn’t make you mean—it makes you honest. You don’t owe ANYONE your energy, your time, or your peace. The more you protect your energy, the more you preserve the parts of you that are still healing.
Rebuilding your physical reality and your emotional well-being is not just about what you remove from your life—it’s about what you plant. New habits. New boundaries. New dreams. Some days will feel like progress, others like setbacks. Both are part of the journey. Be patient. Just keep going.
Let your life be a garden, not a factory. Tend to it slowly. Water it daily. Prune what no longer grows. Invite in the bees and the butterflies. You are not behind nor are you broken. You are blooming.
In the end, the most powerful thing you can be is devoted and determined. Not perfect. Not polished. But rooted. Resilient. Resourceful. Determined. And deeply, unapologetically, lovingly dedicated to your own healing and joy.
You, my love, are worth every soft morning and every firm boundary. Every new lesson and every gentle no. Keep going.
Come to the Cafe, we can sip tea and chat more about this.
Good Spirit
